Lawana Neemann: I know it's tough to deal with a partner's ex especially if the family has met her and love her then you come along. They will grow to love you though. It's just that they've known her longer. She's a messed up thing and don't forget that. Obviously his family has forgotten that she cheated on him three times. Your fiance and his brothers do need to make up. A big fight is not enough to not go to your own brother's wedding. As for the ex, you will have to show her and your fiance's family who is the real lady and who really deserves him. Just be yourself, polite, and kind. Everyone will respect you more for that. No need to belittle her or show off....Show more
Jacinta Moitoso: So the only reason you don't want to go to your fiance's brothers' weddings is because his ex-gf will be there? You really think that not going will help your fiance's family see you in a better light?Your fiance is engaged to YOU, he's going to marry YOU. Let the ex do what! ever she wants. Your fiance has made his choice and it's not her. Stop being insecure and just go to the weddings. I'm sure that both of you would regret not going. What if, as a bit of retaliation, his brothers didn't come to your wedding? I'm sure you both would be hurt by that. People fight all the time but a wedding is a major life event, one that shouldn't be missed due to petty things. Every time one of the wedding albums is brought out, your absence will probably be brought up.The soon to be grooms will be your family soon, you want to start off on the right foot....Show more
Jen Maday: "I normally wouldn't have a problem with this and I would take the opportunity to show off how much better I am for him than her by wearing a kick-a ss dress..."What? How does your clothing attire prove that you're better for him? Okay, well, whatever....Your fiance needs to go to his brothers' weddings. And if you DON'T go to the weddings, then you risk losing any good o! pinion his family has of you because they may misinterpret you! r actions (or interpret them correctly and decide you're being childish).Just act like an adult and suck it up. Your boyfriend is a big boy and can handle any drama she might start. And it wouldn't matter if she stripped down naked and wiggled while squealing in his lap... she can't force him to do anything he doesn't WANT to do. And there won't be drama or awkwardness if both you and your fiance refuse to engage in any that other people create....Show more
Georgina Natal: I would encourage my fiance' to go or be in his brothers weddings, he may regret it later and you do not want him to blame you. I would go and dress classy, be polite, kill em with kindness. I would speak very nicely to her because they are all probably be expecting a confrontation. Do not stoop to that slut's level. Show them how a real lady acts. And if his Mother is dumb enough to keep in touch, then it is your fiance's job to clear things up, wait till you are married and he can have a private ! talk with them if necessary. This way all your bases are covered. If she tries to start something, just try to change the subject of nicely walk away. Give her enough rope to hang herself. Because after all this you will be married and the one in his bed and the one whose child you will have. So be classy and nice and elegant even if you have to bite the inside of your mouth; but, I must stress that you MUST come out of this smelling like a rose. Your fiance' will realize the type of woman he is marrying and realize that she is a mature woman and not a trouble making little troublemaker. Afterwards, you can lay it on a little thick but not obvious with his Mother and if you desire children, then you will have her eating out of your hand. Involve her, but don't let her take over. I am 58 and I have seen a lots of life and I have learned not to be the trouble maker, be nice and the other person will look like a fool. Good luck....Show more
Ileen Oshell: Trust me, I hate! ex-girlfriends as much as (or more than :P) the next girl, but this is! not the place to have the battle. Tell you fiance that it is very important that he go to his brother's weddings. The fight he is having with them will likely blow over, but the fact that he didn't go to their weddings will be a point of contention FOREVER, and if you are going to be a part of his family, I would think that you would do your best to eliminate family drama where you could.Now on to the ex...After these weddings, if after you see her interactions with him and still feel that they are inappropriate, you should talk to your fiance and see if he can ask to put a stop to it. You are going to be his wife, and your feelings do matter.On the flip side, he is going to be your husband and you should trust him. If you can trust him, anything this girl shouldn't matter so much....Show more
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